Soon after I lost my daughter Alice, I started receiving necklaces. This is SUCH a great gift for a grieving friend or mother because she can keep it with her as a constant reminder of her little one. Don’t worry that your friend might receive multiple necklaces- I love my variety! Seriously. I have 7. One for each day of the week! It's not too many. I mean look at them.
Having several of them means I don’t have to wear the same one every day, and I can always honor Alice. If you are thinking about what kind of necklace would be nice to give to a grieving parent here are a few ideas.
1. This was the first necklace I received, and it has an extra special meaning. Kelly Annie Jewelry gifted it to me the day after Alice passed away. It is so beautiful and understated with her name stamped alongside a delicate little heart. We then had an idea- lets make a matching one for Alice!
Kelly made one small enough for her precious little neck and this time imprinted my name, “Mom”. We took this picture of it at the mortuary before we put it on her. I love wearing my matching necklace and knowing that Alice is wearing hers as well as a reminder of our eternal connection as mother and daughter.
2. When I got this necklace I was totally speechless. It was so thoughtfully given to me from my in-laws. I had a sneaking suspicion of what it was when I opened it, but I thought it was impossible. This necklace has Alice’s thumbprint! Mine also has a little pearl and a tag with her name stamped on it, but your gift can be customized. I love being able to have a physical reminder of how small her perfect little digits were. This is such an incredible gift for anyone who is grieving (you can get fingerprints from your parent or grandparent as well), but you’ll have to request your order quickly since they will go to the mortuary for the stamp. You can request one here.
3. This beautiful gold bar was mailed to me anonymously, and I. LOVE IT! This necklace is a reference to a song I wrote entitled “Until Heaven” about infant loss a little over 2 years ago for my sweet niece Margot. It is the perfect reminder that I will see my sweet girl again. Another plus is that it’s discreet enough that you can feel like it’s your little secret and you can wear it every single day.
4. This delicate “A” pendant was a super thoughtful gift from my friend Sydney who had a baby right around the same time Alice was born. That kind of thing bonds Mommies. This one was made by the same cute etsy shop based out of Draper, Utah that made my “Until Heaven” necklace , and it's called Made by Mary.
Sometimes people ask me what the A is for, which I personally love because I love talking about Alice (obviously), but if you want to be more private about the meaning behind yours, the necklace can tuck nicely under your shirt. Or you could make something up. Whichever.
5. This necklace was from my BFF Jill, I mean Liz. (Does anyone remember that commercial?) She actually gave me this for my birthday last year, but I think it would work just as well for a grieving friend.
There are three little pendants on my chain, and each one has the first initial of a family member (Dallas, Sarah, Alice). I think this necklace is a particularly good reminder that whoever you lost is still part of your family and you are all united. Mine was purchased from The Silver Wren.
6. This necklace is classy, simple, and timeless. The beautiful gold ring was put on Alice’s finger by the same group that did molds of her hands and feet, and I slipped it off right before we closed her casket. The ring reminds me of the infinite love I have for her and everlasting bond we share. Any mother would appreciate a necklace with a ring, and a card that explains the meaning.
7. This last thing is more of a DIY idea. I ditched the Y part of DIY, because my sister-in-law Maria and her kids made this for me. If you are looking for a cheaper option and want to have something tangible you can share with your infant, you can buy some beads at a craft store. My cute in laws made one bracelet for me, and one for little Alice Michelle. The beads on mine are Swarovski crystals if you are looking for something similar. Here's a link. They also sell clasps and hooks at craft stores if you want to make yours into legit bracelets. I just haven't gotten around to doing mine yet. (Story of my life)
I hope these ideas are helpful and can lead you to a meaningful gift to help heal a hurting heart. I know I will cherish each of these necklaces my whole life!